As a mom, I’ve had my share of those "Oh, so we’re dating now?" moments. It’s a wild ride watching your kids navigate relationships for the first time. And while the instinct to grab a clipboard and start interviewing candidates might be strong, I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that my role isn’t to hire the perfect partner for my child—it’s to welcome the one they choose.
This doesn’t mean I don’t have thoughts (trust me, I do), but being part of the welcoming committee instead of the hiring committee shifts the focus from control to support. Here are a few tips I’ve picked up on how to be an ally to your kids as they dive into the world of dating:

1. Be Curious, Not CriticalInstead of leading with judgment, lead with curiosity. Ask open-ended questions like, “What do you like most about them?” or “What’s something they’ve taught you?” This lets your child feel safe sharing without fearing a critique of their choice.

2. Model Respectful RelationshipsKids watch how we handle our relationships. Show them what healthy communication, mutual respect, and kindness look like. If you’ve had your share of missteps (who hasn’t?), share those lessons too.

3. Pray for Their Hearts—and Theirs to ComeNo matter how old your kids are, it’s never too early (or too late) to pray for them and their future partners. Ask for guidance in shaping your child’s heart to love and respect others well, and pray for the character and values of the person they might one day share their life with. These prayers don’t just prepare your kids for relationships—they remind you to trust the process and let go of what you can’t control.

4. Set Boundaries, Not BarriersYes, house rules are important—like curfews and respectful behavior—but they shouldn’t feel like brick walls. Encourage open communication about their relationship, and trust that the values you’ve taught them will guide their decisions.

5. Don’t Make It About YouRemember, this isn’t your relationship. You might not always understand their choices, but it’s their journey to figure out. Support them as they learn and grow, even if that means letting them make mistakes.

6. Be a Safe SpaceDating can be full of highs and lows. Make sure your kids know they can come to you—whether they need advice, a shoulder to cry on, or just someone to celebrate with. Being an ally means being there, no matter what.

7. Share What Love Is (and Isn’t)Talk openly about what healthy relationships look like—and what red flags to watch for. Teach them that love should never feel controlling, belittling, or unsafe.

8. Resist the Urge to Say “I Told You So”Let’s be real: sometimes you’ll see a breakup coming long before they do. But when it happens, resist the temptation to gloat or lecture. Instead, be empathetic and supportive as they heal.

9. Cheer for Their Happiness, Not Their PartnerIt’s easy to get attached to your child’s partner, especially if they’re a good match. But remember, your loyalty is to your child. Celebrate their happiness, even if it means saying goodbye to someone you liked.

10. Be Ready to WelcomeUltimately, your job isn’t to approve or disapprove—it’s to welcome. Whether their relationship is a learning experience or a lifelong match, being kind and supportive shows your child you’re in their corner.

When it comes to your kids dating, remember: you’re not the one choosing the partner—they are. Your role is to be a guide, a cheerleader, and a trusted ally. And who knows? You might learn a thing or two about love along the way.
And if all else fails? Just pray. Pray for wisdom, patience, and a heart full of love—not just for your child, but for the person they’ll one day call their partner.
#ParentingTips #DatingAndParenting #WelcomeNotHiring

1. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
   “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
   Encourage them to seek and show love rooted in these qualities.
2. Proverbs 4:23
   “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
   Remind them to be mindful of their emotions and protect their hearts wisely.
3. Ephesians 4:2-3
   “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
   Encourage patience, humility, and gentleness in their relationships.
4. Colossians 3:14
   “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
   Help them understand that love is the foundation of a strong relationship.
5. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
   “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
   Remind them of the value of partnership and mutual support.

Prayers to Offer for Your Kids and Their Relationships

1. Prayer for Wisdom and Discernment
   “Lord, I pray that my child will seek Your guidance in their relationships. Help them to recognize what is good, true, and healthy, and to have the wisdom to walk away from what is not. May they be discerning and grounded in Your truth. Amen.”
2. Prayer for Protection
   “Heavenly Father, please protect my child’s heart and mind as they navigate relationships. Guard them from harm, hurt, and anything that may draw them away from You. Surround them with people who bring out the best in them. Amen.”
3. Prayer for a Loving Partner
   “God, I pray for the person my child will one day share their life with. May they grow in kindness, faith, and love. Prepare both their hearts for a relationship that reflects Your grace, patience, and commitment. Amen.”
4. Prayer for Communication
   “Lord, help my child communicate with love and respect in their relationships. Teach them to listen, speak truth, and resolve conflicts with grace. Let their words build up rather than tear down. Amen.”
5. Prayer for Growth Through Relationships
   “Father, I pray that my child learns and grows through their relationships. Whether things go smoothly or challenges arise, let them find lessons, strength, and a deeper connection to You. Amen.”
6. Prayer for Peace and Patience
   “Dear God, fill my child with peace and patience as they navigate relationships. Help them to lean on You during uncertainty or difficult moments and to trust Your timing and plan. Amen.”
7. Prayer for Boundaries and Respect
   “Lord, help my child establish healthy boundaries in their relationships. Teach them to respect others and to expect respect in return. Let them value themselves as Your precious creation. Amen.”
8. Prayer for Gratitude and Joy
   “Father, I pray that my child experiences joy and gratitude in their relationships. Help them to appreciate the blessings of connection and companionship, and to always give thanks for the love You bring into their life. Amen.”
9. Prayer for Forgiveness
   “God, teach my child the power of forgiveness. When mistakes happen or hurt arises, help them to forgive as You forgive us. May they find healing and renewal in Your grace. Amen.”
10. Prayer for Lasting Love
    “Lord, if it is Your will, I pray that my child finds a partner who will walk with them in faith, love, and unity. Bless them with a relationship that honors You and brings joy to both of their lives. Amen.”

Sharing these verses and prayers with your children not only offers them guidance but also reminds them they are deeply loved and supported by you and by God.

And there you have it—a toolkit of verses, prayers, and a whole lot of faith to guide your kids (and their relationships) through the wild world of dating. Remember, you’re not just raising good kids; you’re helping shape thoughtful partners, kind humans, and maybe even future in-laws you’ll actually enjoy having at Thanksgiving.
So, pray hard, cheer softly, and keep the clipboard retired—this isn’t an interview, it’s life. 
#ParentingWithGrace #TeamLove #CheeringNotSteering

The holidays are here, and your college kids are home! It’s a joyful (and slightly chaotic) time when your not-so-little ones bring their backpacks, stories, and a semester’s worth of laundry. But as much as you’ve missed them, they’re probably feeling a mix of exhaustion, relief, and maybe a little anxiety about what’s next. Here’s how to support and encourage them while keeping your sanity intact:

1. Give Them Time to RestThey’re coming off finals, late nights, and non-stop schedules. Let them sleep in (even if it drives you nuts) and don’t overbook the first few days.
2. Celebrate Their WinsAsk about their semester and cheer them on for the big and small victories—whether it’s acing a tough class or making it through without running out of meal plan points.
3. Be a Safe Space for FailuresIf the semester didn’t go as planned, let them know it’s okay. Avoid judgment and focus on how they can move forward.
4. Set Realistic ExpectationsTalk early about family plans and traditions. Let them know what’s non-negotiable (like Christmas dinner) and where they can have flexibility.
5. Don’t Overload Their ScheduleBetween catching up with high school friends and recharging at home, your college student’s time is limited. Be mindful of how much you expect them to do.
6. Keep the Pantry StockedIt’s no secret—they’re hungry. Make sure you have their favorite snacks and meals on hand. Bonus points for asking what they missed most!
7. Give Them Space to Be ThemselvesCollege changes people. If they’ve picked up new habits, opinions, or even slang, try to embrace it.
8. Have an Honest Money TalkDiscuss budgeting for the next semester without making them feel like they’re being audited. Offer guidance on saving, spending, and stretching those dollars.
9. Encourage Healthy HabitsSupport their mental and physical health by encouraging walks, downtime, or even a trip to the gym together. But don’t nag—they’re adults now.
10. Plan a Low-Key Family DayWhether it’s a movie marathon, baking cookies, or driving around to see Christmas lights, create an opportunity for relaxed family time.
11. Revisit Chores (Gently)Yes, they’re adults now, but they’re still part of the family. Set clear (and reasonable) expectations about pitching in around the house.
12. Keep Communication OpenAsk open-ended questions about their semester, friends, and plans. Show interest without prying.
13. Don’t Forget Their SiblingsIf you have younger kids, help them adjust to the changes when their older sibling comes home. Make sure everyone feels included.
14. Respect Their IndependenceThey’ve been living on their own, making decisions. Don’t micromanage, but be there when they need advice.
15. Set Boundaries Around SocializingIt’s natural for them to want to catch up with friends, but make sure they’re balancing time with family, too.
16. Address Academic Plans ThoughtfullyIf they’re switching majors or struggling, talk about it in a supportive way. Help them focus on solutions instead of dwelling on stress.
17. Talk About the Future (But Not Too Much)Ask about their plans for the next semester, summer internships, or jobs, but don’t overwhelm them with questions.
18. Be Flexible with Family TraditionsIf they’re not as enthusiastic about every tradition, try to compromise. The goal is to create joy, not stress.
19. Pray for ThemCollege is hard. Pray for their rest, renewal, and wisdom in the semester ahead. Let them know you’re lifting them up in faith.
20. Soak It All InAmid the chaos, remember how special it is to have everyone home. These moments are fleeting, so embrace the mess, the noise, and the laughter.

Supporting your college kids during Christmas break isn’t about hovering or fixing everything—it’s about being there for them in a way that feels like home. With a little grace, some patience, and a lot of love, you can make this holiday season one they’ll treasure forever.
#ChristmasWithCollegeKids #MomTips #SupportAndEncourage #HomeForTheHolidays

The other day, one of my sons asked me, “Hey, when’s your anniversary again?” I told him the date, and he lit up. “That’s the same day my girlfriend and I made it official! Do you think that’s a good sign?” He was so earnest and hopeful, and I couldn’t help but laugh at how sweet it was.
While I love his enthusiasm, it also reminded me how important these early stages of a relationship are—not just for making it “official” but for laying the groundwork for kindness, respect, and good old-fashioned thoughtfulness. So, to help my sons—and any other young men out there who want to treat their dates right—I’ve put together a list of tips for dating like a true gentleman. These aren’t just about making a great impression (though they will); they’re about showing respect and being the kind of person someone would be proud to date.
Here’s the playbook. Let’s dive in.

Alright, boys, here's the ultimate guide to being thoughtful, kind, and setting yourself up for success in relationships. Trust Momma, if you follow these, you’ll not only make her smile but also feel good about yourself. Let’s go:

1. Be upfront about the plan. First dates should be simple and mutual. Pick a place together. Surprises are cute later, not now when you don’t know her tastes yet.
2. Be early. If you’re not five minutes early, you’re late. Being on time shows you respect her and value her time.
3. Open doors. Every single one—car doors, restaurant doors, all of them. This isn’t about “old-fashioned manners”; it’s about being thoughtful.
4. Compliment her. Find something you genuinely appreciate—her smile, her outfit, her laugh—and let her know. Authenticity is key.
5. Dress the part. You don’t need to wear a suit, but look like you put effort into your appearance. It speaks volumes.
6. Smell good. A little cologne goes a long way. If she notices your scent hours later, you’re doing it right.
7. No phones. Stay present. Checking your phone says, “I’d rather be somewhere else,” and that’s not the vibe you want.
8. Lead the conversation. Ask her questions, listen, and respond. Show interest in her thoughts, dreams, and what makes her tick.
9. Smile and make eye contact. It makes you approachable and shows you’re paying attention.
10. Make her laugh. Humor is one of the best ways to connect. Don’t try too hard; just be yourself and keep it light.
11. Order an appetizer. Sharing food breaks the ice. It’s an easy way to feel more relaxed and casual.
12. Handle sensitive topics with care. If exes come up, keep it short and mature: “That relationship taught me a lot about what I’m looking for.” It’s about showing growth, not airing grievances.
13. Be honest about your intentions. Whether you’re looking for a relationship or just getting to know someone, be upfront. Kindness is clarity.
14. Pay for the date. Always. It’s not about money; it’s about being generous and thoughtful.
15. Be protective, not overbearing. Walk her to her car, open the door, and follow the “street-side rule.” Show her she’s safe with you.
16. Ask about her world. If she mentions her family, friends, or kids, listen and ask follow-up questions. Being curious about her life shows you’re not self-centered.
17. Express gratitude. At the end of the night, thank her for spending time with you. Thoughtfulness leaves a lasting impression.
18. Be kind to everyone. How you treat the server, valet, or anyone else you encounter reflects who you are. Kindness is never optional.
19. Don’t rush. Respect her boundaries, and don’t pressure her into anything. A great relationship builds on trust and mutual respect.
20. Follow up with care. Text her when you get home to say you had a great time and would love to see her again. Leave her smiling before she sleeps.

Remember, dating is about connection, not perfection. Treat her the way you’d want someone to treat your sister, and always show the best of yourself.

​After sharing the importance of showing genuine interest in someone’s life, you might be wondering how to keep the conversation flowing naturally. This is where thoughtful questions come in. Asking the right questions not only shows you’re listening but also makes her feel valued and understood. So, here are some great conversation starters to help you connect and learn more about her world.

Here are some thoughtful, engaging questions you can ask to show genuine interest in her world:
About Family:

1. “What’s the best advice you’ve ever gotten from a family member?”
2. “Do you have any siblings? What’s your favorite memory with them?”
3. “What kind of traditions did your family have growing up?”
4. “Who in your family do you think you’re most like?”
5. “What’s your favorite way to spend time with your family now?”

About Friends:

1. “Who’s your best friend, and how did you meet?”
2. “What’s the funniest thing your friends have ever done together?”
3. “What’s something your friends would say about you if I asked them?”
4. “Do you and your friends have any fun traditions or hobbies you do together?”
5. “What’s the best trip or adventure you’ve ever taken with your friends?”

About Kids (if applicable):

1. “What’s something your kids have done recently that made you laugh?”
2. “What’s your favorite thing about being a mom?”
3. “Do your kids have any hobbies or activities they’re really into?”
4. “What’s something special you and your kids do together?”
5. “What’s the best parenting advice you’ve ever gotten?”

About Her World in General:

1. “What’s something you’re really proud of in your life right now?”
2. “Who inspires you the most, and why?”
3. “What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the chance to yet?”
4. “If you could have dinner with any three people, alive or not, who would you pick?”
5. “What’s a little thing in life that brings you the most joy?”

These questions keep the conversation light yet meaningful, showing her that you’re listening and interested in who she truly is.

Dating is all about connection, respect, and just enough charm to keep her smiling long after the date ends. Follow these tips, and you’ll be on your way to being the kind of guy moms write blog posts about (in a good way).
And remember, boys, if you ever get stuck, just ask yourself: “Would Mom approve?” If the answer is no, it’s probably time to rethink your strategy. Now go out there, smell amazing, and make me proud.
#GentlemanGoals #YouGotThis #MomKnowsBest