We all know that saying, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Well, I take it one step further when I tell my kids: “If four of your friends are millionaires, guess who the fifth one is likely to be? Choose your friends wisely.”
This isn’t just about wealth—it’s about surrounding yourself with compounders. These are the rare, incredible people who invest in their knowledge, health, wealth, and relationships over decades. They don’t just live life; they build it, brick by brick, with intention and focus. And if you’re lucky enough to have a few of these people in your circle, hold on tight—because they’ll change your life.

What Makes a Compounder So Special?

1. They’re Committed to Growth.
   Compounders are always learning. Whether it’s reading, asking better questions, or seeking out new challenges, they have a relentless drive to improve. Conversations with them aren’t small talk; they’re big ideas and meaningful insights.
2. They Level You Up.
   Let’s face it: compounders are inspiring. When you see them crushing their goals, it’s hard not to want to step up your game. They set a high bar, and you can’t help but rise to meet it.
3. They’re Playing the Long Game.
   These aren’t the friends who chase the next shiny thing or quick win. They’re in it for the marathon, not the sprint. Their success builds slowly but surely, and they remind you that the best things in life take time.
4. They’re Masters of Balance.
   Compounders aren’t just about work or money. They’re also deeply invested in relationships, health, and personal growth. They show you what it looks like to live a life that’s truly full and rewarding.

Why Your Inner Circle MattersI always tell my kids to think about their five closest friends. Those are the people who influence your habits, your mindset, and even your future. If your circle is full of compounders, you’ll naturally pick up their habits—like setting goals, sticking to routines, and thinking long-term. On the flip side, if your circle is dragging you down? Well, you already know how that story ends.

How to Spot a Compounder

• They’re curious. Always learning, always asking better questions.
• They’re consistent. Showing up for their goals every single day.
• They’re generous. Sharing their knowledge, cheering you on, and rooting for your success.
• They’re forward-thinking. Making choices today that will pay off decades from now.

Tips for Building a Circle of Compounders

1. Be One Yourself.
   To attract compounders, you need to be one. Focus on your own growth, invest in your future, and make it clear that you’re serious about leveling up.
2. Seek Out High-Quality Conversations.
   Compounders love talking about ideas, not just people or events. Find those conversations, and bring something valuable to the table.
3. Get Comfortable with Challenges.
   Compounders will push you out of your comfort zone. Lean into it—that’s where the magic happens.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Let Go.
   If certain friendships are holding you back, it’s okay to move on. You can still love those people while making room for others who inspire you to grow.

​A Note to My Kids (and Maybe Yours)You don’t have to be perfect, and neither do your friends. But the people you choose to spend your time with will shape your life in ways you can’t imagine. Surround yourself with friends who make you think bigger, dream bigger, and do bigger.
And remember, compounders are rare. But when you find one? They’re worth their weight in gold—or, better yet, compounding interest. 😉
So, choose wisely. Build that circle. And when you’re the fifth millionaire, I’ll be here saying, “I told you so!”
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#ChooseWisely #CompoundYourLife #LevelUp

As a mom, I’ve had my share of those "Oh, so we’re dating now?" moments. It’s a wild ride watching your kids navigate relationships for the first time. And while the instinct to grab a clipboard and start interviewing candidates might be strong, I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that my role isn’t to hire the perfect partner for my child—it’s to welcome the one they choose.
This doesn’t mean I don’t have thoughts (trust me, I do), but being part of the welcoming committee instead of the hiring committee shifts the focus from control to support. Here are a few tips I’ve picked up on how to be an ally to your kids as they dive into the world of dating:

1. Be Curious, Not CriticalInstead of leading with judgment, lead with curiosity. Ask open-ended questions like, “What do you like most about them?” or “What’s something they’ve taught you?” This lets your child feel safe sharing without fearing a critique of their choice.

2. Model Respectful RelationshipsKids watch how we handle our relationships. Show them what healthy communication, mutual respect, and kindness look like. If you’ve had your share of missteps (who hasn’t?), share those lessons too.

3. Pray for Their Hearts—and Theirs to ComeNo matter how old your kids are, it’s never too early (or too late) to pray for them and their future partners. Ask for guidance in shaping your child’s heart to love and respect others well, and pray for the character and values of the person they might one day share their life with. These prayers don’t just prepare your kids for relationships—they remind you to trust the process and let go of what you can’t control.

4. Set Boundaries, Not BarriersYes, house rules are important—like curfews and respectful behavior—but they shouldn’t feel like brick walls. Encourage open communication about their relationship, and trust that the values you’ve taught them will guide their decisions.

5. Don’t Make It About YouRemember, this isn’t your relationship. You might not always understand their choices, but it’s their journey to figure out. Support them as they learn and grow, even if that means letting them make mistakes.

6. Be a Safe SpaceDating can be full of highs and lows. Make sure your kids know they can come to you—whether they need advice, a shoulder to cry on, or just someone to celebrate with. Being an ally means being there, no matter what.

7. Share What Love Is (and Isn’t)Talk openly about what healthy relationships look like—and what red flags to watch for. Teach them that love should never feel controlling, belittling, or unsafe.

8. Resist the Urge to Say “I Told You So”Let’s be real: sometimes you’ll see a breakup coming long before they do. But when it happens, resist the temptation to gloat or lecture. Instead, be empathetic and supportive as they heal.

9. Cheer for Their Happiness, Not Their PartnerIt’s easy to get attached to your child’s partner, especially if they’re a good match. But remember, your loyalty is to your child. Celebrate their happiness, even if it means saying goodbye to someone you liked.

10. Be Ready to WelcomeUltimately, your job isn’t to approve or disapprove—it’s to welcome. Whether their relationship is a learning experience or a lifelong match, being kind and supportive shows your child you’re in their corner.

When it comes to your kids dating, remember: you’re not the one choosing the partner—they are. Your role is to be a guide, a cheerleader, and a trusted ally. And who knows? You might learn a thing or two about love along the way.
And if all else fails? Just pray. Pray for wisdom, patience, and a heart full of love—not just for your child, but for the person they’ll one day call their partner.
#ParentingTips #DatingAndParenting #WelcomeNotHiring

1. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
   “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
   Encourage them to seek and show love rooted in these qualities.
2. Proverbs 4:23
   “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
   Remind them to be mindful of their emotions and protect their hearts wisely.
3. Ephesians 4:2-3
   “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”
   Encourage patience, humility, and gentleness in their relationships.
4. Colossians 3:14
   “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
   Help them understand that love is the foundation of a strong relationship.
5. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
   “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
   Remind them of the value of partnership and mutual support.

Prayers to Offer for Your Kids and Their Relationships

1. Prayer for Wisdom and Discernment
   “Lord, I pray that my child will seek Your guidance in their relationships. Help them to recognize what is good, true, and healthy, and to have the wisdom to walk away from what is not. May they be discerning and grounded in Your truth. Amen.”
2. Prayer for Protection
   “Heavenly Father, please protect my child’s heart and mind as they navigate relationships. Guard them from harm, hurt, and anything that may draw them away from You. Surround them with people who bring out the best in them. Amen.”
3. Prayer for a Loving Partner
   “God, I pray for the person my child will one day share their life with. May they grow in kindness, faith, and love. Prepare both their hearts for a relationship that reflects Your grace, patience, and commitment. Amen.”
4. Prayer for Communication
   “Lord, help my child communicate with love and respect in their relationships. Teach them to listen, speak truth, and resolve conflicts with grace. Let their words build up rather than tear down. Amen.”
5. Prayer for Growth Through Relationships
   “Father, I pray that my child learns and grows through their relationships. Whether things go smoothly or challenges arise, let them find lessons, strength, and a deeper connection to You. Amen.”
6. Prayer for Peace and Patience
   “Dear God, fill my child with peace and patience as they navigate relationships. Help them to lean on You during uncertainty or difficult moments and to trust Your timing and plan. Amen.”
7. Prayer for Boundaries and Respect
   “Lord, help my child establish healthy boundaries in their relationships. Teach them to respect others and to expect respect in return. Let them value themselves as Your precious creation. Amen.”
8. Prayer for Gratitude and Joy
   “Father, I pray that my child experiences joy and gratitude in their relationships. Help them to appreciate the blessings of connection and companionship, and to always give thanks for the love You bring into their life. Amen.”
9. Prayer for Forgiveness
   “God, teach my child the power of forgiveness. When mistakes happen or hurt arises, help them to forgive as You forgive us. May they find healing and renewal in Your grace. Amen.”
10. Prayer for Lasting Love
    “Lord, if it is Your will, I pray that my child finds a partner who will walk with them in faith, love, and unity. Bless them with a relationship that honors You and brings joy to both of their lives. Amen.”

Sharing these verses and prayers with your children not only offers them guidance but also reminds them they are deeply loved and supported by you and by God.

And there you have it—a toolkit of verses, prayers, and a whole lot of faith to guide your kids (and their relationships) through the wild world of dating. Remember, you’re not just raising good kids; you’re helping shape thoughtful partners, kind humans, and maybe even future in-laws you’ll actually enjoy having at Thanksgiving.
So, pray hard, cheer softly, and keep the clipboard retired—this isn’t an interview, it’s life. 
#ParentingWithGrace #TeamLove #CheeringNotSteering

​Hey baseball moms! ⚾️ Whether you’re cheering for little league stars or high school sluggers, here are your must-haves for the ultimate baseball mom bag. Let’s keep it fun, organized, and ready for anything!

Little League Players (In-Town Games)

1. Snacks Galore: Kids get hungry fast! Pack granola bars, fruit snacks, and goldfish crackers.
2. Wipes and Hand Sanitizer: For sticky hands and post-game cleanups.
3. Mini First Aid Kit: Band-aids for those inevitable scrapes and bruises.
4. Extra Water Bottles: Hydration is key, and kids always misplace their bottles.
5. Sun Protection: Sunscreen, hats, and sunglasses. Keep those little faces safe from sunburn.
6. Blanket or Stadium Seat: Comfort is king, especially on those hard bleachers.

Little League Players (Travel Tournaments)

1. Portable Charger: Keep your phone juiced up for all those game updates and photos.
2. Cooler Bag: For extra drinks, sandwiches, and maybe a sneaky treat for mom.
3. Entertainment: Coloring books, small toys, or a tablet for siblings.
4. Change of Clothes: Mud, grass, and snacks make for messy uniforms.
5. Travel Pillow: Naps in the car are inevitable, and comfort is key.
6. Trash Bags: For dirty clothes, trash, or surprise spills.

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Relatable and Funny Essentials for All Ages

1. Mom’s Secret Stash: Chocolate, a good book, or a magazine for those in-between moments.
2. Noise-Canceling Headphones: For when you need a break from the chaos.
3. Personal Fan or Cooling Towel: Because being a baseball mom can get HOT!
4. Mom’s Emergency Kit: Hair ties, lip balm, a nail file, and maybe a tiny bottle of wine for after the game. 😉

Stay ready, stay organized, and most importantly, have fun! You’ve got this, baseball moms! 🌟🧢 #BaseballMomLife #GameDayEssentials #MomBagMagic

​When our Elf on the Shelf went to "help another family," once our kids got older, I was relieved. It was a lot of work. It was also a lot of fun. Some of our kids have graduated and moved, some are still in high school. These days I'm acutely aware of the time I have left with them in my house. I want to pack memories and lessons and time together in - just as much as possible. Therefore, I'm resurrecting the tradition with a twist - a little help from Buddy.


I'm being intentional and adding some fun to the stressful and very busy days leading up to and including Christmas Break. I'm going to try to do something with at least one of the kids each day to celebrate them - and the season.

This pack includes

• Sample Schedule
• Lessons from the Elf Reminder Cards
• Elf Hats
• Spreading Christmas Cheer
• Pin the Face on the Elf
• It's Santa! I know him. Gratitude Cards
• Scavenger Hunt
• Elf Trivia
• Snowflake Card
• The Elf Code
• Random Acts of Kindness (Bonus Free Ideas)
• Buddy's NYC Adventure
• Elf Spotify Playlist

December 1st is National Christma Light Day!
Let's Celebrate!

Every year we load up, crank up the Christmas music and ohh and ahh together over all the fabulous Christmas light displays in our area. Every one in a while, we take it up a notch. It always brings a smile when we give out our ​Christmas Light Awards.

We liketo look at the lights so much that we even went to The Lights in Arlington, Texas this year. It's a drive through light display - and it was amazing!

It’s one of our favorite Christmas family traditions we enjoy each year.  One year we even gave it a Polar Express theme! We make an evening of it by making popcorn and hot chocolate, piling in the car in our jammies (just the kids when they were little) and our blankets, and getting the playlist ready.

​To ramp up our yearly Christmas light family night (and help the kids pay a little more attention) I came up with a way to celebrate the hard work neighbors put into their homes for the holidays. It  added in an extra element of excitement for the kids too.

​To be recognized and awarded for all their efforts to bring holiday cheer to the town, I created some certificates to hand out during our drive looking at Christmas lights. These certificates each have a theme.

Print out the certificates and date and sign them. You can put your family’s last name or the person who gives the award can sign their name.
​Some years we took turns giving the awards and personally signed the certificate. This year I'm printing a set for every single one of us! 
An additional fun twist to these awards is you can knock on the receivers door and give it to them personally or you can be sneaky and tape it to there door. One year we gave the gand prize winner a pie from United!
Either way it’s super fun to give these awards to the best lit homes in your town.

• The Minimalist – Simple and clean light display
• The White Lights – Most beautiful white lights display
• The Inflatables – Most inflatables per square foot
• The Reason for the Season – Best Nativity display
• The Griswold – Sparing no expense of Christmas spirit!
• The Disco Fever – Best projection lights and/or music
• Blank – make-up your own award to give!

THE MINIMALIST
This home will have a simple and clean light display. They will have the windows and home trimmed and lights carefully placed. Or possibly they may only have one tree decorated or one window decorated.

THE WHITE LIGHTS HOUSE
This home will be decorated will all white lights! No multi colors to be found on this house.

THE INFLATABLES HOUSE
Every inch of this homes front yard is filled with inflatable decorations. Maybe they even skipped putting up Christmas lights at all. 

THE REASON FOR THE SEASON
A nativity scene will be the focus of this person’s yard. Possibly a wooden stable with lifelike figures or a beautifully lit manger scene. 

THE GRISWOLD HOUSE
Lights covered every inch of this persons home and yard. The roof, the grass and the trees are all lit with lights!

THE DISCO FEVER HOUSE
Projection lights or lights timed with music would fit this award perfectly.

BLANK
Create your own award for a home. This one is just for you and your family.

When you go back to each home try to get a picture of the house and have someone hold the certificate up in the picture. This will be a fun memory to look back at and as the years go by you can compare the award winners!

You can give a little gift with the award like a candy cane, chocolate bar or Christmas ornament. Or just give the award itself. 

We can't wait to hear how your Christmas Light Tour goes this year.

Size: 8 1/2 x 11
Total Pages:22 
Print: in Color, one-sided

Guide Book includes:

• A planning calendar
• ideas page
• A Welcome Letter
• Elf Protection Sign
• Scavenger Hunt for indoors or outside
• Elf Jokes
• Secret Code Game
• Coloring pages
• Christmas Light Hunt
• Would You Rather Game
• Mini Signs for your Elf
• Cut out Photo frame
• Foldable Treat Box
• Service Ideas
• Donation Box Letter
• Letter to Santa Paper
• The Foor is on Fire Game Sign
• Mini-Elf hats 
• Goodbye Letter

Medley Number 4 had his birthday in April and we're just now getting around to throwing him a party! Last day of school, early out, and a trip to 4Golf with a few buddies. They played golf and tag and … then we went for ice cream. Those boys are fabulous. 

​It's going to be a fun summer!

When I was pregnant with Clayton I read a book that encourage parents to allow others to give their kids nicknames. They said more names, more love. Those nicknames represented connections and relationships that will enhance your child's life experiences. 

Friends, coaches, and others have given Clay some names - Mr. Chisum, C-note, Clay Dogg, and others...

When others show favor to your kids, it gets your attention. It makes you proud.

Clay got his first graduation gift. It was from neighbors we had not even sent an announcement to. They just loved my kid.

I appreciated that so much. I was overwhelmed. It hit me big.

The 5th and 6th grade girls that I have been teaching on Wednesday nights since they were in 1st grade, were invited to sit in on youth group for the first time. There was a special speaker and an extended worship time. You could tell they were nervous as we filed into "big church" and as the service progressed, they relaxed. As we were leaving, they were talking about how they couldn't wait to be in youth.

Being in a youth group was essential to my well-being. I cherish the relationships and lessons I learned there.

Those years can be difficult and lonely, struggling to fit in, taking on new responsibilities, and filtering messages from all sides. Teens can use as much encouragement and love as we can give them!

I had a verse taped inside my locker each year. One of the most memorable I remember, I traced a picture our of my Precious Moments bible. The verse read, " I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord...." Reading Jeremiah 29:11 between classes offered comfort many times.

Here are a few options for middle school or high school lockers you may know of...

• 1 Corinthians 10:13
  13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
• 1 Timothy 4:12
  12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.
• Deuteronomy 31:6
  6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
• Ephesians 4:29
  29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
• Exodus 20:12
  12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.
• Galatians 6:9
  9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
• Isaiah 41:10
  10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
• Jeremiah 29:11
  11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
• Psalm 119:9
  9 How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.
• Psalm 119:105
  105 Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.
• Romans 15:13
  13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
• Philippians 4:6-7
  6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
• Proverbs 1:8-9
  8 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 9 They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.
• Proverbs 3:5-6
  5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
• Matthew 11:28-30
  28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
• Isaiah 40:29-31
  29 He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. 30 Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the LORDwill renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
• Ephesians 6:1-3
  1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”